Babe, hun or sweetie

[addicted2lov]

I must say I find it to be a turn off when I get called either of these appelatives. Txt, call or face to face.

Civilian dates, sp's, receptionists, girls that I met several times or girls I never met - in either case it drives me a bit crazy, I don't know why.
Maybe because it's very impersonal and the more personal the relationship, the more I hate it. I feel like the person doesn't even bother to personalize the communication. I can't stop thinking that people using these words are dealing with a great lot of people and don't want to or just cannot remember people names. Or they just do it on purpose or reflex in order to avoid calling someone the wrong name.

What are your experience with this? How do you feel about it?

As such I always avoid calling girls babe or sweetie. Do girls care about being called this way?

 

[m_clock]

There was one time many years ago at the NBI I called the server "hun", she had the bouncers kick me out. Lesson learned, I haven't done it since.

 

[Bad Santa]

I must say I find it to be a turn off when I get called either of these appelatives. Txt, call or face to face.

Civilian dates, sp's, receptionists, girls that I met several times or girls I never met - in either case it drives me a bit crazy, I don't know why.
Maybe because it's very impersonal and the more personal the relationship, the more I hate it. I feel like the person doesn't even bother to personalize the communication. I can't stop thinking that people using these words are dealing with a great lot of people and don't want to or just cannot remember people names. Or they just do it on purpose or reflex in order to avoid calling someone the wrong name.

What are your experience with this? How do you feel about it?

As such I always avoid calling girls babe or sweetie. Do girls care about being called this way?

It's true, those words have almost become subtle insults because they impersonalize the other person while sounding personal. Kind of like bud, buddy or bro among men. When I start texting an SP I'm interested in, I always introduce myself with my name first and address her by name, so if she answers back with "babe, hun or sweetie," yeah, it's a bit of a turnoff.

If you don't want to keep it somewhat personal by introducing yourself by your name, then it's on you if she addresses you back with one of those impersonal words.

 

[westcoastrider1982]

Babe is so overused. Hear it all the freakin time our in public and on tv.
Also find it a turnoff when I’m texting an SP and she uses it in her texts

 

[VanessainVictoria]

I'm sorry. I use babe. It is a term of endearment after all. I don't mean anything harmful by it. However, I do not use it in texts. If someone provides their name in a text I assume that means they want me to use it.

 

[luvsdaty]

This sounds so much like a first world problem.

 

[EuroSZabina]

I don't use them, it's a turn off for me and I rather not receive it either. Unless it's a well known person in my life.

 

[PierreCoeur]

I am really old school and sometimes slip in using words of endearment when I am looking for intimate experiences. If I get blacklisted because I used a word they find offensive than so be it.

I think it is far better to use terms of endearment such as thanks Babe, than saying thanks whore or worse. Hey Slut, what will it cost to fuck you tonight ?

 

[BobbyMcgee]

not too hard to remember her name after all you looked for and booked her...
she on the other hand has seen hundreds of you and so i imagine remembering a name might be tough.
i myself hate the babe honey as much as buddy bro.

 

[PuntMeister]

I will take all of your unwanted babe, hun, sweetie endearments. I love ‘em. Makes me feel all gooshie inside.

Thanks baby!

 

[big tits only]

I think someone who gets upset when affectionately called "Babe, hun, or sweetie" needs to chill out. I don't do marijuana, but you'd make a good candidate.

In this day and age of SJW far-left social justice toxic-masculinity rhetoric BS, I rather find it refreshing that some women like to use these loving terms of endearment. It far beats being called 'the patriarchy, mansplainer...etc"

Also, never goto southern USA, every waitress and women will call you 'hun' or sweetie. In SE Asia I have so many girlfriends there that call me "Babe, baby, hunny etc..." and i LOVE it because it means i have already bonked them.

 

[masterblaster]

She calls me Dear on occasion.

 

[addicted2lov]

This sounds so much like a first world problem.

I totally agree it's a first world problem. A rather good problem to have lol
I am glad to see that I am not the only one having these issue though

I always give a name in my communication specifically so they know who are they talking to. I get that sp's are getting tons of messages and babe it's easy to use. But for actual civilian dates to use it in txts - I find it super annoying and makes me feel like a number. Maybe the purpose of using the term is to show affection somehow but with someone that you have a personal relationship it totally puts some things in question.

 

[MixedDude]

I'm in my early 30s and I must say I find being called babe a little annoying. I honestly prefer that I be referred to by my name. If the chemistry leads to an inside joke that creates a nickname/pet name, that works too!

 

[mistermetro]

I'm in my early 30s and I must say I find being called babe a little annoying. I honestly prefer that I be referred to by my name. If the chemistry leads to an inside joke that creates a nickname/pet name, that works too!

I dislike it unless I know them. Otherwise it just feels like pandering...because it is.

 

[Hugh Jass]

Ill take "dude" over any of them.

 

[MissingOne]

As long as they don't call me "John", it's all OK.

 

[bazokajoe]

I must say I find it to be a turn off when I get called either of these appelatives. Txt, call or face to face.

Civilian dates, sp's, receptionists, girls that I met several times or girls I never met - in either case it drives me a bit crazy, I don't know why.
Maybe because it's very impersonal and the more personal the relationship, the more I hate it. I feel like the person doesn't even bother to personalize the communication. I can't stop thinking that people using these words are dealing with a great lot of people and don't want to or just cannot remember people names. Or they just do it on purpose or reflex in order to avoid calling someone the wrong name.

What are your experience with this? How do you feel about it?

As such I always avoid calling girls babe or sweetie. Do girls care about being called this way?

I'm with you on this.
I hate being called babe. It's like they forgot I have a real name.
Don't get me started on being called daddy. Sounds too much like incest to me.

 

[concfin]

I had a rather slutty looking waitress call me hun the other day and im thinking she might also be a sp on the side. Going to ask her if she is into that

 

[Poon Raider]

There was one time many years ago at the NBI I called the server "hun", she had the bouncers kick me out. Lesson learned, I haven't done it since.

Many years ago??? HAHAH that's an understatement, I think the NBI closed about 15 years ago. Man it was great having a peeler bar in Burnaby!

Back on topic, I don't really mind babe, hun, cause I don't give my name or get asked for my name anyways It's not like we're going steady and in a relationship. Some guys want to keep their privacy as well imo.